Updated: Apr 18, 2021
You're scripting, meditating, making a vision board, repeating affirmations to yourself in the mirror, and falling asleep to the mental movie of your dream life, yet nothing happens. Manifestation = not manifested. But don't worry, you're not doomed! Keep reading...
This is for everyone out there who wants to manifest abundance but is having a difficult time. Below I will be addressing some of the top manifestation mistakes people make, and then I will dive even deeper into my own recent manifestation mishap.
Even if you have absolutely no idea what it is you desire, you can still attract abundance, and I am going to share with you exactly how you can do that.
My goal is for you to leave here feeling confident in your manifestation knowledge so you can go on to implement the practices that generate real results.
Remember: your powers are infinite, abundance is limitless, and my faith in you is insurmountable. Are you ready to start creating your dream reality?
Hi! Let’s Talk Manifestation, Shall We?
After reading You Are A Badass by Jen Sincero at 15, and fully awakening to the power I hold as the co-creator of my reality, I started manifesting my goals with a 100% success rate. Some manifestations happened almost instantly, others took a much longer time to unfold, and many manifested in ways I least expected them too.
The key to successfully manifesting is to keep your vibrations high and your mind open.
If you have stumbled upon this blog post, then it is likely you are on your unique spiritual journey, you have awoken to your own co-creating, manifestation abilities, or you feel a deep calling to learn more about this so-called “hippie” stuff.
Wherever you are on your journey, this next statement will remain true:
You manifest multiple times a day, every single day you are alive, whether you are consciously aware of it or not.
Manifestation is not something that you can turn on or off, so when I refer to the act of “manifesting” I am talking about the act of consciously funneling your innate abilities as a spiritual being to achieve certain desires.
With that said, if you are someone who has tried to consciously manifest something into your reality, I am sure you have also experienced what I call a manifestation mishap, which is my poetic way of saying that a manifestation has “failed” to um, well, manifest.
There are many reasons why your manifestations may not be appearing out of the clear blue sky with the ease that you desire. Let’s take a look at some of them:
1. You are connecting your thoughts to your desires but not your frequency or your actions
Conquering your thoughts is an amazing feat and you should be proud, but if you are not aligning your frequency with that in which you desire, or taking aligned action towards your goals, then I'm sorry to say that not much will happen in the manifestation department.
In order to achieve your desires, you must vibrate at a frequency that matches it. So dedicate time to doing things that lift you up and fill you with light, even if it has nothing to do with what you are trying to manifest. The goal here is to raise your frequency as high as possible so that you can attract abundance with ease.
In the same vein, you actually need to do something in order to manifest your desires. I call this aligned action, because it will feel right and be an authentic and natural undertaking. For instance, if you are trying to attract more genuine friendships into your reality, then signing up for the club you have always been interested in seems like a pretty solid aligned action. Or, if you are trying to manifest money, then doing research on how you can monetize your passions also seems like a pretty great next step.
Matching your thoughts with what you desire is extremely important, but so is keeping your vibes high and your actions aligned.
2. You may have limiting beliefs replaying on loop in your subconscious mind
Ahh the subconscious mind is a silly and stubborn little guy. It receives information and holds onto it like a sponge.
Let’s go back to the example of trying to manifest genuine friendship. If you had experiences in which you have been hurt by friends in the past, it is extremely likely that they have left an imprint on your subconscious mind, causing it to equate less friends to being a safer reality. And since the subconscious mind is clueless as to what is actually good for you, it will try its hardest to maintain an environment in which you lack friends because that is when it thinks you are the most comfortable. This can manifest in getting a panic attack before a social event and canceling last minute, not responding to your text messages because you are “just so busy,” or even lashing out at a good person for fear of getting too close.
In order to combat this phenomenon, you must rewire your subconscious mind to think that creating genuine friendships is what's best for you. That way you will stop self-sabotaging.
You can do this through EFT Tapping therapy, listening to recorded affirmations when falling asleep, energy healing, working on challenging your limiting beliefs, etc. I encourage you to find the modality that works best for you.
Once you can reprogram the subconscious mind, you can achieve basically anything.
3. You may be be too sacred to take the leap and actually jump on the opportunities that the Universe is giving you
This is a combination of the first 2 mishaps. You may be preventing yourself from taking aligned action because of the seeds of fear planted by the subconscious mind.
When you decide you want to manifest something and start aligning your thoughts and frequency with that desire, the Universe will comply and shower you with opportunities to make it happen, but it is up to you whether or not you take them.
The key to overcoming this mistake is to keep an open mind about how your manifestation will come about. If you pigeonhole yourself, you won’t be able to see all of the roads to success that are appearing around you. Subsequently, you must also be willing to take the jump and actually go down those roads.
So, it is imperative that you keep an open mind and surrender to the Universe. Trust that you will find your way and listen to your gut — not your subconscious mind or your ego — your intuition. Let it be the map that leads you to manifesting all of your desires.
The roads are there, so get off at the freaking exit already.
4. You are not “acting as if.” You are still embodying the version of yourself without all of your desires
I am not in love with the phrase “fake it til you make it.” I much prefer the mantra, “act as if,” because you should not be faking anything. You should instead be embodying your higher self who has achieved all of your goals.
That version of yourself is out there, so become that version instead of pretending to be anyone else.
Pretending vibrates at the frequency of lack, whereas embodiment vibrates at the frequency of achievement.
If you are having some difficulty with acting as if, then answer the questions below:
Given that you have already manifested all of your desires...
How would you feel?
How would you act? Towards yourself and others.
How would you speak? Towards yourself and others.
What would you do?
What would you wear?
What food would you eat?
What music would you listen to?
What would you write in your journal every night?
Where would you live?
These questions are extremely important. Answer them honestly and start becoming that version of yourself. You can do it all at once or take baby steps, but whatever you do, you must start acting as if your wildest dreams have already been fulfilled. If you can think of that reality, then that means that it is available to you.
5. You are approaching manifestation as a once in a while kind of practice instead of recognizing that it is a lifestyle
Remember when I said that we are manifesting every second of every day? Well, it is vital to keep this in mind.
Scripting, meditating, visualizing, using the 369 method, and making a vision board are all amazing manifestation practices, but if you only manifest your desires in small spurts and neglect the rest of the day, then you are doing yourself a massive disservice.
Manifesting isn’t something that you only do during the New Moon, when you are in a good mood, or just when you wake up (despite those all being great times). Manifestation must happen all the time. You must be in alignment with your desires as much as possible.
This goes back to acting as if. If you are embodying someone who has a plethora of genuine friendships, then you would not write down how grateful you are for them in the morning and then sulk in your room all weekend because you have no one to hang out with. You would embody the version of yourself with all those friends and show up as that person. You would reach out to people, go to a local coffee shop, or spend meaningful time with family members. Anything besides reverting back to a lack mindset.
My Manifestation Mishap
Now that we got those 5 common mistakes squared away, I want to talk about the most recent manifestation block that has come up in my life. And that is the dilemma of having absolutely no idea what I want.
I have a vague direction of my goals, but since I am in a massive transitory period in my life right now, I am not 100% sure about the specifics. And I have a feeling that a lot of people out there are also struggling with figuring out what exactly it is that they desire, so I wanted to share some advice.
It is true that manifestation works best when you are as specific as possible, but the good news is that you do not need to know the specifics in order to be specific.
Here is how:
Make a guess:
First things first, there is no harm in using your intuition to make an educated guess about what you desire. You can always alter your goals and change your mind when the time comes. There is no cancelation fee with the Universe.
Starting with at least something is key, because then you will be able to use your emotions and signs from the Universe to support you in aligning with your soul’s divine path.
Take Baby Steps:
If you are someone like me and you are feeling quite lost and confused at the moment, please be easy on yourself and take things slow. Beating yourself up or getting frustrated for being clueless is the opposite of raising your vibration.
Take it day by day and FEEL into the events in your life. Trial and error is still a valuable learning tool. Test out different hobbies if you are feeling off course when it comes to your purpose, pay attention to how you feel in your body, and keep a lookout for any signs from the Universe.
Life is not a race, and there are valuable lessons to be learned in the midst of confusion. Show yourself grace and take things slow. The answers you are seeking are already within you, and they will reveal themselves to you in divine timing.
Get as specific as you can about the FEELINGS you want to manifest:
Instead of manifesting the exact goal (since you have no idea what that goal is), manifest the feeling of having all of your wildest desires met.
Soon enough you will start manifesting the dreams that you didn't even realize you had.
Embody what it would feel like if you were no longer confused and you knew exactly what you wanted, and then embody what it would feel like to finally manifest those desires into your reality with ease.
The great thing about manifestation is that it is based on intention, so even if you lack the specifics, you can still make strides towards your goals through setting the intention of achieving them (whatever they may be).
Manifest Alignment + Happiness Instead:
If you need something concrete to manifest, then manifest joy. Attract alignment and happiness, and soon enough the things that match that frequency will have no choice but to come along for the ride.
Raise that frequency as high as possible;
It is imperative that you do not let your confusion bring you down into victim mentality mode. No sulking allowed! Your journey is perfect just the way it is. There is no need to feel inferior or stressed. The Universe has your back, 1,000%. It is your job to keep your frequency high and your trust strong.
However, you should also refrain from avoiding or suppressing your emotions. Negative feelings are important to recognize and honor during this human experience, but ruminating in them and spiraling into a negative mindset is not.
Honor the chaos. Let your emotions flow through you, and then let them go when you are done receiving their input.
Most importantly, be kind to yourself. Do things that bring you immense joy and fill you up with light. Not only do you deserve it, but it will also help you remain in alignment with your Higher Self and cause you to start attracting your goals without even knowing what they are. One day you will wake up and they will smack you in the face and scream “WE'RE HERE!” And you do not need to wait for that day in order to start living as if it has already happened.
I was confused, stressed, and an overwhelmed mess a few weeks ago. I felt like the solid ground beneath my feet was ripped away and I was free falling without any direction or parachute. I was scared.
Now, everything has changed, but not because solid ground has returned beneath my feet. No, things are different now because my mindset has changed.
I no longer view the feeling of falling with terror, I view it with exhilaration. I see having no clear direction as endless possibility instead of chaos and doom.
I made the decision to start flapping my wings and fly instead of waiting for the inevitable crash landing.
I won’t lie to you and say I now have everything figured out, because I don’t (and I have a feeling no one actually does). But I can say with confidence that I know I am on the right track. I am following my gut, keeping my vibes high, and doing things that align with my Higher Self. And most importantly, I am having fun stumbling through the confusion and figuring it all out.
I wish you endless abundance and speedy manifestations, and if you are feeling lost, I also wish that you let go of your fear of confusion and learn to embrace the rush of the fall, and the comfort of figuring out that you in fact do have wings.
Sending infinite love and light,